Monthly Archives: July 2014

“Turn up the Volume, Turn down the Noise”

This video is already a year old, but I am just now seeing it. No surprise really since I am not into HipHop or Spoken Word.

But I appreciate this young lady’s message. To the women and to the men.

I do believe in freedom of expression, but there is something to be said for programming. We know innately when something is ‘wrong’, but if we have been programmed (by our music and popular culture) to see it as alright…then we may well do what is wrong and feel justified.

It is evidenced in some of the responses to this video. Negative and hurtful to the poet. Why? Why is it ok to say negative things in song, but then not ok, for someone to speak her opinion back?


Go ahead girl! Speak your truth!


Instant Gratification is NO Gratification!!!

golfMy father was an avid Golfer. That does not mean he was a great golfer. But he was a passionate golfer. He played as often as he could, competed in every local interclub competition, watched Jack Nicklaus videos and videotaped competitions, rarely traveled without his golf kit and was the captain of his club a record number of times. He was passionate about it. The camaraderie, connections, fun and drinks that came with the 18 holes were well worth it.

All of us were raised as ‘golf kids’. I was the only one who did not stick with it, but I understood the game enough to understand what the pleasure and the challenge in it were.

I, along with everybody else was excited about Tiger Woods. And kept a slight eye on the sport over the years. It has always been my intention to take it up later on in life and FINALLY participate in the family sport.

But Golf is only the vehicle that gets me to my point.

I watched another really good episode of Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel on HBO the other day and one segment was on the future of Golf. The future of Golf? It’s going back to being an elite game for the rich and the old. So much so that the Golf industry is looking at ways to make it more interesting and inviting to the younger demographic.

Apparently, one of the reasons young people have lost interest in Golf, is because it is HARD!!! Apparently no one wants to walk 18 holes and have to try SO hard to make that little ball roll into that tiny hole at the center of the green.

Introducing the 15 inch putt hole, only a few little inches larger than the standard 4.25 inch putt hole! Obviously, to make it easier to get the ball in. Still 18 holes, but easier game, more fun, more clients Woohoo!

Another popular trend that is quickly gaining momentum is “Top Golf” – driving ranges that simultaneously serve as night clubs. You don’t have to putt, you don’t have to concentrate that much, after all, the music is blaring so that you can dance as you swing, and best of all, you don’t have to wait till the end of your game for the round of beer.

Though this sounds entertaining enough, I am not sure if we should call it Golf.

But we are having fun, right? That’s the purpose of the sport after all, isn’t it? What’s the problem with that?

I don’t think the problem with Golf is Golf at all. What the problem is, is that with each generation, we are UN-learning the value of deferred gratification. The value of practice making perfect. The value of challenge. Instead of facing challenge, we are doing away with it in the name of instant gratification.

Why walk around a large manicured field every weekend to master the art of getting a ball into a hole? “It takes way too long” “It’s just too much work” “It’s too difficult”

Forget that walking is a great albeit mild form of exercise, being out in the fresh air and sunshine is a great source of Vitamin D, which many of us are lacking these days, cooped up in our cubicles by day and our dimly lit gaming rooms by night. Many valuable friendships and business deals have been forged on the golf course. And the challenge, ever against no one but yourself, makes you strive to do better every time. And when you have played your best that beer at the end is not just a drink, it is a delicious and well deserved reward.

Don’t misunderstand me, I am all for technology and making things easier, after all I am an online entrepreneur. But even in my Industry, people come into the business thinking it’ll all just happen at the push of a button. And they quit in disappointment when they have not become millionaires in a month. Yes, internet marketing is a lot easier than traditional sales used to be. Yes, anyone can do it. But it still takes commitment, practice and yes, it is a challenge that may take some time to master. But oh, when you do….it is SO worth the wait.

Learning to deal with challenge is a very important part of not just building our character, but of succeeding in life and business.

We should not always look for the easier way out. We should not always seek to bend the rules of the game just to make it easier for us to play it.

You don’t become great by cheating yourself and that is what we are doing.

Hey, if I want to play Golf, I want to play the real thing. I may not become Tiger Woods, but I would be pretty proud of whatever success I do achieve.

Becoming an internet entrepreneur is a lot easier AND very possible. So here’s my take:

Instant gratification = working a J.O.B. that you are probably not passionate about to earn a weekly paycheck that you spend having fun at virtual golf night clubs or other trendy forms of entertainment. But look to the future, what happens when you are no longer the party animal. You will be left with the J.O.B….or not. And wonder what ever happened to your joy of living.

Deferred yet lasting gratification = using your spare time to set up and work a business that is YOURS. Making, saving and investing YOUR money and looking at that future – you quit the J.O.B. on your own terms and are living in early “retirement” doing what you want to do, when you want to, and with whom. Hey, maybe you are taking in 18 holes at an exotic golf course with standard size putt holes.

Which sounds better to you?

In my opinion, instant gratification is NO gratification at all.


“All in or Nothing!!!”

german champs

I love the slogan Adidas used for the 2014 FIFA World Cup.

But now I know and understand that being “All in” is the key to every success.
Think about it, and be honest….how good can you be at what you do if you are only half ass about it?? If you only give 50% at anything, do you really expect to reap 100% in rewards?

Will they call your name among champions if you only do what you “can” or what you “feel like” ??? Most likely not.

The World Cup is over now, Germany hailed as the champions. Do you think they just practiced “when it was convenient”???
We will replay images of great shots made by the likes of Messi, Neymar and Mueller.
And even for the teams like the USA that did not make it to the finals, we will talk of great plays by Dempsey and the awesome goal keeping by Tim Howard.
Did they only practice when the time and conditions were right??

Here is the fact folks…and I have learned this the hard way….if you want to succeed at anything,
if you want to count,
if you want to live the life you dream of,
if you want to be the CHAMPION of your life…

You NEED to be ALL IN!!!!

Give your all!
Don’t just say the words – Truly mean it!!

You can be all you want to be, but you have to give all you have to give.

It’s ALL IN or it’s NOTHING!!!

You may not be playing for the FIFA world cup, but you are playing for something….
Are you “all in” in every area of your life?
Are you and ‘all in’ parent, colleague, team member, SELF?

Enjoy this video, determine to be the champion that you ARE, and share your thoughts here.

Much love!!!

Self-Education will make you a Fortune

“Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.”

– Jim Rohn: American entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker

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Jim Rohn grew up as a farm boy in Idaho. As a young adult, he became a stock clerk at Sears. It was then that he met his mentor, Earl Shoaff, and his life was drastically changed forever. Rohn started out making a fortune in the direct sales industry, but his gift for personal development took him to ‘stardom’. Many of the people we look up to as personal development gurus were influenced by him.

What a great story! I love stories like that. They inspire me becasue they make me ask…What is my story?

What is YOUR story?

I did not grow up poor on a farm. or work as a stock clerk. I actually had a decent middle class living, went to college and am a trained dentist. But is that where I want my story to end?

Jim Rohn is absolutely right in the quote above – Formal education will train you in some chosen career and will make you a nice living. And if you are passionate about it, then even better for you. But your true success, fulfillment AND fortune come from SELF-EDUCATION. Personal Development!

And this is also what you can truly pass on to others and leave behind as a lasting legacy.

It is the personal development that creates the greater story.

And that is why I love the Empower Network. Because our primary focus, is your personal development. And through this…you can make your own fortune.

There really isn’t a better way to go about it or a better company to partner with.

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Happy Independence Day!!! – Set Yourself Free!!!

Happy Independence Day

Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning” – Robert Kiyosaki

We would not be celebrating Independence Day if our founders had given in to fear!

Today, determine to do something that will take you to the next level. And then enjoy the fire works as your own symbol of the freedom that you are about to create for yourself.

Happy Fourth of July!!!

A Psalm of Life by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

A little late in the poetry game, I just now found this gem.

This poem tells the whole truth of Life. Enjoy it!

henry longfellow

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807-1882)


TELL me not, in mournful numbers,
Life is but an empty dream ! —
For the soul is dead that slumbers,
And things are not what they seem.

Life is real ! Life is earnest!
And the grave is not its goal ;
Dust thou art, to dust returnest,
Was not spoken of the soul.

Not enjoyment, and not sorrow,
Is our destined end or way ;
But to act, that each to-morrow
Find us farther than to-day.

Art is long, and Time is fleeting,
And our hearts, though stout and brave,
Still, like muffled drums, are beating
Funeral marches to the grave.

In the world’s broad field of battle,
In the bivouac of Life,
Be not like dumb, driven cattle !
Be a hero in the strife !

Trust no Future, howe’er pleasant !
Let the dead Past bury its dead !
Act,— act in the living Present !
Heart within, and God o’erhead !

Lives of great men all remind us
We can make our lives sublime,
And, departing, leave behind us
Footprints on the sands of time ;

Footprints, that perhaps another,
Sailing o’er life’s solemn main,
A forlorn and shipwrecked brother,
Seeing, shall take heart again.

Let us, then, be up and doing,
With a heart for any fate ;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait.

More Committed Than Boko Haram!!! – A Cry Against Apathy

More Committed Than Boko Haram!!! – A Cry Against Apathy


BringBackOurGirls makes it to the FIFA World Cup

#BringBackOurGirls makes it to the FIFA World Cup

In Mid-April this year, 276 teenage girls were kidnapped from school in the small town of Chibok in Borno State, Nigeria, by a group of Islamic Militants called “Boko Haram”. To this day, at least 230 of them are still missing.

The Nigerian Government displayed little interest in this case, just as they had with previous Boko Haram attacks. But the women of Nigeria felt that enough was enough and began to protest and rally against the government demanding action. And so the #BringBackOurGirls movement was born.

Translated, “Boko Haram” means ‘Book knowledge (Western Education) is sin’ in Hausa which is the predominant language spoken in Northern Nigeria, a predominantly Islamic region.

Growing up in Nigeria, I had family, Christian Southerners, living in the North, so I can say from first-hand experience that in those days, the violence we see committed presently would have been unimaginable. Christians and Muslims lived and prospered side by side. We celebrated with each other on religious holidays and we lived as neighbors and friends and even as family when we intermarried. After independence in 1960, education was a foremost achievement desired by most Nigerians, a source of family pride. Education was free for all. And though there were still those who practiced child marriage and did not believe in educating their daughters, I had many Muslim classmates in my all-girls high school and I graduated from medical/dental school with a fine number of Muslim sisters. There was no talk of ‘Boko Haram’.

The apparent backward turn that northern Nigeria has taken in the name of religion is truly troubling.


Bring Back Our Girls!

After the initial flurry of #BringBackOurGirls selfies, the world seemed to fall back into apathetic silence, but as we celebrate graduations all over America, let us not forget about these girls who also would have been graduating had they not been kidnapped from school as they prepared to take their final examinations.

It is understandable that we fell silent. I am not innocent of this myself.

We all have busy lives, running the never ending rat race, fighting hard to make ends meet, trying to make the most of any pleasant moments we manage to squeeze in before rushing back to one responsibility or other…just trying to get by.

Yes, it is understandable, but it is not acceptable.

We don’t know what has become of these girls. The few that escaped told of repeated raping and forced religious indoctrination. The others are still missing. Perhaps already sold, perhaps hurt or worse, killed. We have no idea.

Yet the Nigerian government is non-chalant. The leader of the nation, who should be representing the people and caring about his citizens, has displayed very little apparent interest in the situation.

It was weeks before he said he would visit the town from which the girls were taken, and then on the scheduled day, he cancelled. Fearing for his life, it is said. Then you are not a true leader!! Your people are in tears, they have lost their children, your nation’s future…and yet you are too fearful for your own life to even commiserate with them.

Foreign countries have sent help and we are told that the Nigerian military is working with them to find the girls and to protect the citizens from further attacks. Doesn’t sound like they are doing a very good job of it. Since the Chibok girls, more kidnappings and killings have taken place.

We do not know if we can indeed find our girls and bring them back, but we must stand our ground. We must continue the barrage against a government that condones these types of actions.

We must not remain silent until our voices are heard and these actions against our innocent are ended.


Rally in New York

June 16, 2014. International Day of the African Child.

Dressed in Red, carrying placards, and chanting “Bring Back Our Girls!!”, we rallied in front of Nigeria House on 2nd Avenue in Manhattan.

Speeches were made, songs were sung, poems were read. The diversity of the crowd and the speakers was impressive. Young and old, male and female, white and black, a variety of ethnic backgrounds and a mixture of religions; Jewish, Christian, Muslim.

The message was clear!

This concerns us all!!!

We did a roll call of all the missing girls, and the rally leader declared that we will not stop calling their names and speaking of them. “We need to be more committed than Boko Haram” She said. “We will continue to call our daughters’ names because we believe they are still with us and they can still hear us and they will return to us.”

It was moving and effective.


So far removed

But can they hear us? The girls…the Nigerian Government…Boko Haram??? Can they hear us calling?

We may think not. So why call at all?

It seems that, by nature, we do not concern ourselves with causes until they hit home.

We stand in disbelief hearing about the Virginia Tech massacre, feel sorry for the parents in the Sandy Hook massacre, cry for the Isla Vista victims killed by Elliot Rodger in California recently, but once the memorials and media coverage are over, the families are left to mourn alone and we go on with our lives and do nothing more. But no case is more or less horrendous than the other. No case requires more or less concern from us. We should always cry out and never hold silent until our voices are heard.

None of these kidnapped girls in a faraway Nigerian town unknown to us is less important than an Elizabeth Smart, a Jaycee Dugard, a Jon Benet Ramsey or a Caylee Anthony. Each one of these girls leaves behind a family desperately praying to bring her home safely.

So don’t let’s give up on them!

Don’t stop the selfies! Attend a rally! Write a letter, article or commentary!

Join the #BringBackOurGirls movement! It need not take up much of your time, do as little or as much as you wish. There is power in numbers.

Let us show the Nigerian government that the world is watching and demanding better!

We are mothers, we are fathers, we are sisters, we are brothers…WE ARE #BringBackOurGirls and we ARE more committed than Boko Haram!

#BBOG in Manila, Philippines

#BBOG in Manila, Philippines


By Susan Olupitan


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