Monthly Archives: January 2014

Mom-spective: Being a mom is enough!

I’m talking about simply being a mom.

I’m talking about getting up in the morning, slapping your face with water, looking in the mirror, sighing, brushing your teeth (maybe), and picking up that toddler and wandering into the kitchen and pouring cereal in bowls, rinsing dishes, kissing the top of their head, and waiting for your coffee to brew.

There isn’t much glamour.

There is you. You giving of yourself. Minute, by minute, by minute, by minute until those hours add up to create a day which adds up to create a week which adds up to create a month which adds up to create years which add up to create a life. A beautiful life filled with ordinary enough mom moments. Read more…

I totally love this blog post a friend sent me today. It touches the true heart of me.

As I have mentioned before, becoming a mom turned me into a “serial entrepreneur”.  Always on the search for the perfect opportunity that would let me stay home with my kids, be a present mom AND earn an income.

I never planned to have children, but I knew that if I DID have children, I would give my all to be their mom.

As it turned out, the man in my life brought joy to the idea of having kids so here I am, a mom.

And I love being a mom. It’s a hassle. It’s endless sacrifice. It’s tiring and thankless. But oh, it’s delightful, rewarding and the kind of blessing you can not find in any other way. And it is a blessing that no other being but you…the divine feminine can experience. It is DIVINE!…and why on earth did those brats leave their dirty shoes in the hallway again???!!! GRRRRR!!!

Yes, well…I never said I was perfect.

Long and short of it, THIS is the way to be a stay home mom AND earn not just an income, but a good income.

Take a closer look. Click here, put in your email address and watch the video.

You’ll be glad you did.

Love you!

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So DO kids mess with your marriage??

Does having kids make a marriage happy or hopeless? One study claims to have the answer and the results aren’t exactly encouraging for parents.

According to the study of more than 5,000 people to be published later this week by Open University in the U.K.,childless couples ranked the quality of their relationships higher, felt more valued by their partners, and (shocker) spent more time maintaining their relationships, going on dates, and having intimate conversations — undoubtedly easier to do when you’re not racing through dinner to relieve the sitter or halting that crazy-deep conversation when the baby starts crying. Read More…

This Article published in Yahoo Shine today quotes a study showing that kids make marriage miserable. Well, we have two kids. Bouncing baby boys..they were! Now they are bouncing BIG boys…still bouncing LOL 🙂

There is no doubt that kids can keep you very busy. But that’s where the commitment you made with your partner comes in. You HAVE to WORK at keeping your relationship alive and fresh. It does not happen on its own, and it does not happen easily. You HAVE to do the WORK.

So, I think the study may be flawed. Because they would need to take into account the existing relationships between the parents prior to having kids. If they know what they are getting into and are willing to make the sacrifices parenting involves, I think they might find that though it’s hard, it need not be “miserable”.

Most couples go into parenting thinking it’s all about having cute babies. ILLUSION!!!!

So I say, do the study again with couples who went into parenting with a more mature outlook and let’s see what comes out.

Might open the door to some other valid discussions…

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The Simple Life

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NO NOT THAT!!!!

More like…….

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When I was a wee youngster, I used to be enamored by what I called “the simple life”. I used to watch shows like “Little House on the Prairie” and be moved by the fact that all you really needed was Love. A log cabin, a hand pump for water outside, a few chickens and a couple of horses would complete the picture. 🙂

I actually can vividly remember a dream I had a few times of myself and my family living in such a cozy little home, in which I had to climb a ladder to get into my loft hay mattress bed.(we had to be vary careful with the candles we used to light the home) I carried the belief in a simple life always with me. Looking with disdain upon people who glorified riches and material possessions. I loved and believed only in the goodness of the heart and the pure joy and love of the Arts, which was totally a pathway to God.

Older and wiser now, I see how my romance with poverty attracted it and made it a reality in my life. Well, I am not living in the romantic way I envisioned it, and I am not nearly one of the statistics that would be counted in the poverty bracket, but the fact is…as far back as I can remember, even though I came from a regular middle class home, I just never had any money. As soon as I got it, it was gone with nothing to show for it.

I moved out on my own to New York City in the late 90’s and can still not explain why, living on my own…no family, no responsibilities, no kids….only my dreams…why on earth was I always broke???

Other single friends, would plan vacations and trips and I would always back out for financial reasons. Sometimes, when we went out to dinner, my friends would pay for me, because “I had no money”…even though we all worked at the same company and followed the same artistic dreams. How does that make any kind of sense????

I attracted it to myself.

My self image was one of not having money. This is what I had wanted, right? –  “the simple life”

Well, how many of you know that the “simple life” I envisioned is much more easily lived WITH money…than without it.

See, I still am not a materialistic person. I still believe in Love and the goodness of the human heart, and the joy of creation in the Arts…all that good stuff. As well as, organic living, green energy, saving the planet and all that as well. But now I have come to realize that I can’t have that ranch on the hill, with my animals and my own vegetables and a house that is solar powered without paying for it!!! LOL 🙂

I realized that it’s not the money I was supposed to be hating. It was the principle of materialism and consumerism. I could be perfectly rich, with lots of money in the bank and STILL not buy into those concepts. I wanted a “simple” life…not a “poor” one. Phew! What a relief! I did not have to feel guilty about the fact that I was feeling bad about not having money anymore! There is nothing wrong with wanting some more cash flow…as long as it is just that…FLOW! not stagnant! (hoarding money is not being rich…but that’s another blog entry for another day)

So I started working with the Law of Attraction to attract more money to myself. But it didn’t happen much. Little things here and there, but nothing life changing. And then it clicked…I was still holding on to the romantic image of having no money. This was still the image I identified myself with. This had to change.

So that’s the new mindset. I do deserve money in my life. I love money (not hate it). Money enables me to do what I love to do and to live how I love to live – Simply!

Here’s a cute book I found that you might like to try on for size:

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Overcoming F.E.A.R. – A necessity!!!

Procrastination, creative blocks and frustration are well documented unwanted effects of fear. It’s our sense of fear that derails success more often than actual failed attempts at success.

However, the truth of the matter is that often, it is not actual fear that we are dealing with…it is F.E.A.R.

Fear is a Good Thing

Fear is an emotional response to an actual threat, and it’s a fundamental survival mechanism that’s served us well throughout human history. When you’re in immediate danger, fear tells you to get yourself to someplace safer.

Fear is also a true emotional response when we’re about to lose someone or something that’s important to us. So it’s not just about our personal safety – we can fear the loss of a loved one to illness, or our home to foreclosure due to unemployment.

That is talking about “real” fear, but here’s the problem. The sensation people experience in the face of taking action to achieve their dreams – business, personal, spiritual, whatever – is usually NOT true fear.

It’s F.E.A.R.

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What is F.E.A.R?

F.E.A.R. is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. There’s no true threat of immediate physical danger, no threat of a loss of someone or something dear to us, actually nothing there at all.

F.E.A.R. is an illusion. Something we fabricate in our own minds and pretend is real. It’s a fairy tale we tell ourselves that keeps us from doing what we really want.

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The common label for F.E.A.R is anxiety, a less fundamental emotion that arises purely from our own thoughts, not external reality.

How to Conquer F.E.A.R.

“Anxiety is nothing but repeatedly re-experiencing failure in advance. What a waste.” ~Seth Godin

Are past failures real evidence that justifies fear of future failure? Nope, because unless you keep doing the exact same thing over and over and expecting different results (one definition of insanity), you have no real evidence that your next approach will fail.

Past failures generate false evidence appearing real. To the contrary, it’s likely you learned things from your past failures that instead provide evidence that your odds are now better than ever.

The worst-case scenario, of course, involves those who’ve never failed, because they’ve never tried. These people have zero real evidence of anything, and are living in the purest imaginary prison of the mind.

Guess what? Healthy, well-adjusted people take risks, without all this deep dread over specific outcomes. The journey is what you’ll relish, and it just might take you somewhere better than you initially hoped. No matter what, each journey teaches you what you need to know to take the next one.

Here’s some news for you – “WE HAVE A CHOICE”!!!

Yes, we have a choice in how we think or act! F.E.A.R might grab a hold of you, but YOU can decide whether to give into it or not.

OR….I challenge you to take your False Evidence Appearing Real and turn it into a much more positive Acronym:

Feeling Excited And Ready!!! (thanks Neale Donald Walsh for that one)

So come on….bring on the F.E.A.R.!!! I am about to do something INCREDIBLE!!!

Cheers! 🙂

New Years’ Resolution Numero Uno – NOT TO BE BROKEN!!!

STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE!!!

This is a big one! and a really good one since, as we have all heard before, Life begins at the end of our comfort zone.

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When I was younger and straight out of college, I lived outside my comfort zone just fine. Probably drove my parents insane. But as I “grew up”, I settled down. Got a “real” job and began to live a “regular” life. SNOOOZE!!!! BOOOOORING!!!

Not only did I get bored, frustrated and unhealthy, I also got…BROKE!empty pockets

How on earth do you get broke in your comfort zone?….doing all the right things your parents told you to do??? That makes no sense.

But look around you. What do you see? An endless number of people running the endless rat race and endlessly trying to pay off the endlessly growing debts.

What is so “comfort”able about that “comfort” zone???? Nothing! I can tell you that!

Look, we are not all looking to be the next Warren Buffett, Donald Trump, or Mark Zuckerberg, but wouldn’t it be nice to be able to plan a day out with the family without first happy familycounting out all the bills that are hitting your paycheck this week. 

How about a date night out with your hubby – NO kids (I did say “datenight”, didn’t I?) Call in the babysitting service and go have a parents date nightball…you can afford it!

Or how about NO Family at all…How about a day just for you. Maybe a day at a fancy spa??? Get a facial, a massage, mani AND pedi…Why not?? You CAN afford it!

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These are not tall orders…they are basics…and YES…you CAN afford them. Just saying’!

I, for one, am stepping way out of my comfort zone this year. I am so done being “comfortable”. I am ready to have some life and adventure in my life again. I am ready and willing to try something new and watch it pay off. Yeehaaa!!!!

Come on Folks!!! Let’s do like Nike…Just do it! 🙂 nike-just-do-it-hd-wallpapers-bikv0uh8

Love and Blessings